While it was quite a departure from the spiritual-based workshops I usually attend, I was recently invited to observe the Pick-up Artist Super Conference, which was held where else but in Las Vegas, the pick-up capital of the world. Love Systems, a company whose mission is to help men “succeed” with the ladies, hosted the conference. The company claims that their training will help men attract, date, and seduce more high-quality women. Love Systems is so confident in its techniques, that the company offers a money-back guarantee. Apparently, the art of picking up women is serious business!
Men from all over the world paid thousands of dollars to attend the conference, which consisted of various lectures and workshops during the day. Then, at night, the attendees go out to the Las Vegas clubs with the Love Systems instructors while they put their newfound pick-up artist skills to the test. I had the pleasure of both sitting in on several daytime workshops and also going clubbing with the guys one of the nights. I honestly didn’t know what to expect going in, but I’m happy to report the conference was much less sleazy than it sounds.
Most of the workshops focused on building up the men’s confidence and self-esteem. When you think about it, men really have to put themselves out there when trying to meet a woman–not only do they have to possess the confidence to approach, but they also need to learn not to take rejection personally. One of the workshops talked about how to raise your energetic state and even suggested an “Inner Game” routine that included working out and watching comedies to warm up before going out to meet girls or going on a date. We girls just put on makeup and figure out which dress to wear.
Almost every single presentation emphasized leadership skills because women, myself included, love a take-charge kind of a guy. What girl doesn’t appreciate a man who plans ahead, makes reservations, or calls her first? The men also learned how to approach and communicate with women, as well as understanding female psychology. The seminar on texting taught the guys how to create deep conversation and really connect via text message. Over in the “breakthrough room,” the attendees practiced skills such as storytelling (women do enjoy a man who can keep them entertained) as well as body language. The body language workshop encouraged the men to really make a woman feel seen—I can’t argue with that advice, but I got a kick out of seeing the men practice gazing into each other’s eyes. You would think that these men would feel silly practicing these techniques on each other, but they all seemed really into it.
Of course, the pick-up artist super conference wouldn’t be complete without offering some more risqué workshops than how to gaze in a woman’s eyes. Unfortunately, I had to fly back to L.A. before the “Strippers and Hired Guns” seminar. Wondering what’s a “hired gun?” I had to Google it myself–a “hired gun” is a woman whom you want to pick up but is at work—i.e., waitresses, bartenders, bottle service girls. I did, however, sit in on what sounded like the most scandalous seminar of the weekend called “Same Night Lays.” The instructor explained how he felt that texting a girl after you meet her to arrange a date was too much work, so he set out to be the best pick-up artist in the area of “same night lays.” I suppose, every pick-up artist must have his own niche! The information he presented wasn’t revolutionary, but in case you were wondering what is the best way to find someone to sleep with you that very night—he basically advised men to approach as many women as possible and not to let the rejection deter them from their goal of taking someone, anyone, home. Ultimately, one of these girls is bound to say yes, and oh yeah, don’t forget you have to ask her to leave the bar with you. Just FYI, the pick-up artist terminology for whatever a man says to women to get her to leave the venue with him is called a “pulling statement.” And if you can’t get anyone to go home with you, you’ll be known as an “AFC,” average frustrated chump.
Of course, someone like me who craves a deep connection wouldn’t be a fan of this technique, but “same night lays” are a goal for some men; and there are many sexually liberated women out there who do enjoy the thrill of hooking up with a guy they’ve just met, so I can’t fault Love Systems for including this seminar on its agenda. This method probably does work for some, but my personal opinion is any girl with standards isn’t going to want to go home with the guy who has been rejected by every other girl at the bar. And I would really hope that most men are looking for someone they really like versus just taking anyone home, but apparently there are men out there like this. So, ladies, be careful!
All in all, however, I felt that most of the techniques being taught at the Pick-up Artist Super Conference were positive. It seemed as though the men just really want to connect with us women and learn what makes us tick, and the Love Systems instructors genuinely wanted to help. I noticed that the attendees all looked very happy with the conference. As I was talking to the owner of Love Systems, one man walked up with a smile so big he was practically glowing. He thanked the owner for the weekend, gushing about what an amazing service Love Systems was providing. What I gathered from the weekend was that these men really put a lot of time, money, and effort into understanding us better, which is actually pretty endearing. I walked away from the Pick-up Artist Super Conference realizing that we women do have more power than we know♥